Whats Love got to do with it?

“Gamble everything for love, if you're a true human being.”    Rumi

   

Valentines Day is just around the corner and I would be remiss to not have a look at Venus, the planet of love, and see what shape she is in.

As it turns out Venus is feeling a bit anxious and jittery as she sits in Aries, holding hands with wild child Uranus and glaring sideways at powerful Pluto, god of death, destruction and transformation.

Uranus trine Moon brings a sense of surprise and delight to the day while the Sun still in Aquarius is open and friendly to all.

The Moon in sexy sultry Scorpio  will definitely add some sizzle, though  emotional tension could be triggered by the Moon's square to Chiron Mercury and Neptune in Pisces. 

Neptune can distort things and amp up our disappointment factor as fantasy turns to fiction.... setting off  latent feelings of vulnerability and victimization (Chiron). What happened to the dream? We are all so sensitive and vulnerable when it comes to love.

Luckily, Jupiter brings us hope with his uplifting optimism while Saturn stabilizes what could be a volatile mix.

Hmm.   Sounds like the typical relationship type drama : Hoping for the best, fearing the worst!! Oolala!!

Valentines day is such a strange tricky thing. It supposedly celebrates love, but can in the end puts so much pressure on everyone to live up to some over-inflated romantic ideal that many walk away disappointed  (or just try to ignore all the hype and pretend they don’t care). Either way it’s a loaded situation and today we have a loaded chart to match.

 

So what is love anyway?

I heard a great dialogue yesterday in a film. Two women were walking along discussing relationships and one turned to the other and said…

“Deep down inside, most of us do not believe we are lovable. So we try to prove we are ok by finding someone to love us. We decide (unconsciously or consciously) to love someone for their potential to love us. It’s totally narcissistic. We love them and they love us and we both think we are ok because we are loved. 

But if they do something to make us think they do not love us, it confirms our hidden belief that we are unlovable, so  we close our heart and stop loving them, (because our love is based on them loving us). This then makes them feel unloved (thus confirming their own belief that they too are unlovable) so then they close their heart.

And because no one wants to admit (or doesn’t even know) that deep down they feel unlovable, we get angry at the other person who wont love us and it all spirals downward until we have to part because there is so much pain…

                        

... and then we look for someone else to love us…and on it goes....."

                          

 There is a solution:    

                                Love yourself first. 

Then love is always there and we can’t lose it no matter what.  And we will then be able to recognize love in each other. Yet to truly love our self,  we must know who we are....

We need to look in the mirror.

 

If you knew yourself for even one moment,

if you could just glimpse your most beautiful face,
maybe you wouldn't slumber so deeply

in that house of clay.

Why not move into your house of joy
and shine into every crevice!

... For you are the secret Treasure-bearer,
and always have been.

Didn't you know?

-- Rumi

 Happy Love day... (every day!)